YMMV, but in my not-so-humble opinion, one of the primary appeals of the Goth lifestyle is the admonition to love the unloved.
On one hand, this means Goths are often big fans of SPIDERS! BATS! Carrion birds! Snakes! Fungi and bacteria! The ugly, forlorn monsters and things related to darkness, entropy, and death which many people shun!
On the other hand, this also means the kids other people bully.
I guess what I’m saying is, if you’re Goth and you turn your nose up at people rejected by the mainstream, if you practice racism, ableism, sexism, or classism, if you’re all about glamour and shun grime, then honey, you ain’t Goth. You’re just a prep who loves the status quo in everything but their aesthetic.
Radical kindness is Goth As Fuck!
Oh my lord this.
This is one of the things I love about kink too, tbh. If I show someone my scariest, most selfish, most monstery bits, and their response is joy and eagerness, then… then maybe I’m not so terrible after all.
It confuses me how few people talk about that, tbh.