How would you say real life BDSM/kink varies from fantasy BDSM/kink? If you haven’t experienced real life BDSM/kink how do you think it might differ?
Last time, I just talked about how my core fetish is impossible and unethical in real life.
Now that I have experienced some real-life kink, I can also say that some things I like in fantasy aren’t so appealing in reality, and some things I don’t find hot in fantasy are appealing in real life.
In fantasy, I really like electrical play. There’s a YouTube channel by a couple who do a lot of electrical play – the Dom is apparently quite handy, and he’s constantly inventing new toys to deliver shocks to his sub. The first video I watched of theirs had Alexa controlling a shock program. Alexa would ask the sub “Has the slut been naughty?” and she would reply “she has” and then Alexa would decide whether or not to shock her for it. Really hot video. But in reality, I keep wanting to touch the bottom, and then I get shocked too, and I don’t like receiving pain at all. Fighting with my urge to do something that ruins my enjoyment kind of spoils the whole thing.
In contrast, in fantasy, impact play has no real appeal, and bondage is just a means to an end. But in reality, rope is pretty and fun to use, and hitting people with objects is really, really fun.