What misconception about kinky people would you most like to clear up?
Probably the idea that sexual desire automatically translates into action, and that pretending automatically translates into reality. If you like reading fics about something, or role-playing it, that doesn’t mean you want to do it for real. Most people seem to get that in non-sexual contexts, like murder mysteries, LARPing, etc (though there are exceptions), but so many people seem to expect sexual feelings to operate on totally separate rules from non-sexual interests. For me, the way I experience my kink, literally the only difference between it and a kind of weird fascination is that it triggers an involuntary physiological response. So what? My vagina getting wet doesn’t dictate how I should behave. It’s just something that it does.
