30 Days of Kink: Day 18 redux

Any kinky/BDSM pet peeves? Any thing you particularly dislike or that annoys you? If so, what are they?

Last time, I mentioned how people equate kink with sex. Which still really bugs me.

Another biggie is the mental picture people have for female dominants. It feels like you’re expected to either be someone who humiliates men while wearing skintight leather and heels, or some nurturing ‘gentle femdom’/Mommy type. More power to you if you like either style, but I really don’t. And yet, calling myself a domme or femdom feels like I’m trying to fit myself into those boxes. Also, it feels like a lot of the representation of female dominants is more about getting male subs hot than about what we’d like to see. It’s all about the male gaze, no matter who’s on top.


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