How open are you about your kinks?
Not very open at all.
With my other minority identities, I tend to blurt them out even to complete strangers. Within 30 minutes of conversation, many strangers already know that I’m autistic, aroace, and an abuse survivor. But they won’t know I’m kinky.
In real life, only my family, two ex-therapists and two queer friends know I’m kinky. Online, I go by two different handles, and initially kept my kink discussion to my kink handle. I wish I’d kept to that, honestly.
I don’t know why it’s so much harder to talk about my kinks. I feel so ashamed of having sexual feelings, of any kind, much less a kind that makes others judge me negatively. I wish I could be open and proud about my kinks, but I can’t.
