How would you say real life BDSM/kink varies from fantasy BDSM/kink? If you haven’t experienced real life BDSM/kink how do you think it might differ?
Well, obviously my primary fantasy can’t and shouldn’t happen in real life. So that’s a big difference. A lot of kinky people have fantasies that are physically impossible, unethical, or just plain wouldn’t be enjoyable in real life. (Incontinence is in that category for me. I like imagining someone having incontinence, but if someone actually has an accident in my presence, it really grosses me out.)